The End.

Ok. So first online dating experience has come to an end. After three dates and one long PG-rated, high school-style make out, and he ended it. I had to respect him for how he handled it all. He didn't string me along or try to take advantage of me. He was respectful about it. I'll give him that. So with one phone call, my first eHarmony relationship was ended.

I will admit I had felt it coming. I thought I was more interested than he was since date 2 and was trying to convince myself it was all in my head, but my gut was right. I think this all taught me to listen closer to my gut. It typically knows what is up.

Now I am not too heartbroken over all this. He was a cool guy, and I had fun dating him. I am sad it didn't work, but not heartbroken. I am just glad I didn't close out my eHarmony account or get too attached too quickly. So now I am back to the drawing board. Luckily there are plenty more guys online to meet! Hopefully one of them will feel about me the way I feel about him. I am looking forward to that day!

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth

Exchanging Numbers

So I got this idea from another friend who had done dating (and met her boyfriend) on eHarmony. She recommended not exchanging numbers, last names, emails or anything too personal till after the first date at least. I thought this was really good advice. First, when you are meeting someone online, you really don't have any clue that he/she is who he/she says he/she is. So until you've hung out a few times, it is safest to keep things distant just in case. That doesn't mean you shouldn't bond over mutual interests or share stories about your life, but keep out the what street you live on and where you work stuff.

Also I think that by not having each others cell you are forced to immediately examine what happened on the date and if you really are interested in seeing the person again. If you are, you send a message to him/her over the dating site with your number and email and then go from there to move the relationship off of the site.

If however the date sucked, and you really don't want to see him/her again, then you can cut it off easily be sending a message through the site saying you were not feeling it. Nice and clean.

So I am using that method for sure for all my dates. Does anyone else have any tips for online dating?

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth

Post-date High (And Coming Down)

So my hot date the other night went amazingly well. The conversation flowed easily from one thing to another, his manners were perfect, and he has about the best smile I've ever seen (I am also a sucker for a good smile, right up there with Harry Potter and Chicago...and he has read every Harry Potter book...so double hit). So overall, an amazing date. And sorry kids, no kiss. Just good wholesome fun. But I thought we clicked well.

But now I am in the post-date limbo. We exchanged numbers and have texted (veryyyyyyy lightly), and he expressed an interest in continuing things, but he hasn't asked me out again or even hinted about hanging out again. He sent me another eHarmony email asking some questions, which I found as if it was almost a step backwards. Why wouldn't he either get my real email or text/call me? I would think that after you've crossed over from the eHarmony contact to real life, you shouldn't be going back to the eHarmony way of contacting. Or am I over thinking things, and this is this normal online dating behavior? It was my first date. I might still not have the hang of this online dating.

Anyways, I am kinda getting down from the high I was on after the date (I spent most of the day after with a huge smile plastered to my face scaring everyone in my office...serious post-date high). But the weirdness of going back to eHarmony email and no hint at future plans makes me wary. But in the end, I guess no over-thinking is going to change the situation. What will be, will be!

But I keep wondering is going back to the dating site's mail exchange normal eHarmony dating behavior?

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth