Hot Date

So the date of my first eHarmony meet up has been set! I am really excited, but also a bit nervous. The guy seems really cool and not afraid to be a bit silly, which I love. He has actually read and watched all the Harry Potter books/movies multiple times and doesn't seem to have taken the whole eHarmony process that seriously. I like that. I kinda just want to have fun with it to. I am curious about why he did join, but I am hoping to get that after the date. So yup! First eHarmony date is Tuesday night! I can't wait!

The things that make me nervous are hearing stories like Emma's where the guy she met was completely different from what she was expecting. I would actually be really disappointed if that happened. By a lot. He seems really funny and easy going through our messages. And I laugh every time a message from him pops up in my box. It is a nice break to my day. We've bonded of Harry Potter, having Trek-y dads and other silly things. It would be nice to get to some deeper issues at some point, but that might be a few dates in. My biggest worry is if the chemistry we have on paper can transfer over to meeting in person. So cross your fingers!

Any ideas on what I should rock for my first date look? Bellow is that i was thinking of doing:

Ok. not exactly, but I am thinking a white heavy-knit sweater, tight jeans and sky-high brown boots. So how do these elements fit together:

First date appropriate for meeting up for drinks in a dive bar? Let me know what you think! Any other suggestions (date wise or clothing choice wise)???

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth

Asking the Right Questions

I've gotten through the first few steps on eHarmony (5 multiple choice questions, the "must haves" and "can't stands" -- which I don't really even get -- and have now gotten onto the 3 open ended questions.) Progress!!!

So as I've been exchanging these questions, I've realized a few things. The people who I find more attractive are the ones who take the time to write individualized questions. They are the ones who actually read my profile and picked up on certain elements to ask me about. Best question I got so far was about a scene in a TV show that I had put as one of my favorites. He actually knew the characters and questioned what I would do in the particular situation. It obviously took some thought. And was really fun to answer. The rest of his questions were just as awesome. I am really looking forward to talking to him more. So I hope he responds soon!

Getting back to the questions. The people who spent time to create original and personalized questions rather than just pick random ones from a list are so much more impressive. I felt inspired and excited to respond to those types of questions.

So what should you get out of this? Take a few more minutes to ask the person you are communicating with a question that relates only him/her. It makes you feel special getting those questions, and you realize that they actually took the time to read your profile fully. It feel good. So share that feeling with someone else by taking the extra time to craft his/her questions! It is worth it and will help you form a deeper connection. And don't be afraid to get silly!

DATING UPDATE: Still no dates, but I feel them coming on soon! Woop!

Hugs and kisses,
Elizabeth

Woo Me

Woo me. Seriously. It is really that simple. I want to be chased. I want someone to tell me I'm amazing and take me on picnics on the beach or to a concert or just hiking in the hills. But seriously, put some effort it. I might not need a full on "GAP attack" like in the clip above, but I do want something. I think that is part of why I joined eHarmony. Wooing is dead, and it makes me sad. At least with eHarmony potential dates have to jump through a few hoops before they can get to the part where they can message me. They have to work for it. And I am worth it. But seriously, boys. Woo us. Get us flowers, step it up on a date, ALWAY wear cologne (just don't over do it) and a breath mint. Men really don't understand the power of a little cologne. It has to be just enough that it gives her an excuse to get close to you to breath it in and bam. She is putty. But back on topic. We need wooing back. And I think eHarmony and dating websites help bring it back in a way. The force candidates to work a little harder than they do in a bar and actually connect with some. And well, I dig it. So woo away, boys!

Hugs and kisses,
Elizabeth

My Achilles' Heel

Ok. I am a sucker for a few things. And I've noticed when looking at profiles on EHarmony that there are a few things I totally go for.

+Harry Potter: I am immediately interested in any guy who has READ (not just watched) Harry Potter. Slightly obsessed with the series, and I think that a guy who has read HP has a slight nerdiness factor (and I am a bit of a sucker for nerds as well).

+Chicago: Ok, so Chicago is my favorite city in the world. Not only was I born there, but I moved back for grad school (I lived in a few other places in between). I have traveled a lot (not as much as I want to, but a fair amount), and I haven't found another city that can compare. It has public transportation, amazing architecture, friendly people, great restaurants and an awesome night life. What more could you want? (And anyone who complains about the weather is a wimp).

+Big 12: I am incredibly partial to my alma mater especially, but I'll take any Big 12 school. Especially being in California now, it is really awesome to find anyone who went to a Big 12 school. I am just not a California boy fan. Is there anything wrong with that?

So recently I started talking to both a guy who said the last book he read was Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows (turns out he's only read each book once and only right before the movies came out, which isn't quite as impressive...wow I am a nerd) and another guy that is from Chicago (we'll see if he loves the city as much as me!). Anywho, I couldn't not respond! We'll see what happens. Still having gotten to first date point (and I'm not sure if I am in any rush to go there yet anyways). I am just enjoying the search at the moment. Lets see where it goes!

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth

First Valentine's Alone in Years...

So I spent my first Valentine's last night without a real valentine in years. I always had sweethearts in high school, a steady boyfriend in college and a string of other men since then that managed to just make it through this Hallmark Holiday. 

I've actually never been a huge fan of Valentine's Day. It is kinda like New Years to me where all this pressure is put on being with the right guy in the right dress at the right place with the right gifts or whatever. I really rather curl up at home and watch a movie and cook. I do love my red roses though...but it shouldn't take a holiday for a guy to give them to me! Right? 

Anyways, the above episode of Glee inspired me to embrace my single life and my new dating plans. So instead of being sad about not having a guy, I had dinner with three of my closest friends and loved every minute of it because they are so amazing. So I'm gunna take a line from Rachel (well, Katy Perry) here and say, "you just gotta ignite the light and let it shine, just own the night, like the forth of july, cus baby you're a firework, come on show them what you're worth!" So here is to singles everywhere! As Kurt said, "THIS IS OUR YEAR!!!"

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth

First Contact

All right. So I've gotten a few requests for contact, and I've weeded through them a lot. I know I don't want to date a guy that lives far away, which cuts out the guys from Pasadena and the Valley. I cut out guys who I wasn't attracted to (sorry, physical appearance matters). And cut out the guys who's bios didn't jive with me (too emotional or whatever). They were too young (I've dated younger guys before, they aren't ready for commitment). Anyways, while looking at all these profiles I noticed a few things.

1. Don't use pictures with you and a bunch of people. It is really confusing trying to figure out which one is the person who the profile is about.

2. Be descriptive in your profiles. This is your chance to let everyone know exactly what you are looking for.

3. Don't feel bad about not responding to someone. If they are outside of the age range you are looking for, don't live close enough to you or whatever reason don't think they are a good fit, just delete their message to you. You don't have to respond to everyone. It is better to stay true to yourself.

So after much sorting, I ended up finding not just one, but two guys I was willing to respond to. So I did! First attempt at contact made. Lets see where it goes!

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth

Not what you were expecting

Last night I had dinner and drinks with guy #2.  After emailing back and forth this week I painted a picture of him in my mind.  This picture could have won awards, it was that good.  However, in reality he didn't end up being that person.  He looked....similar to his photos but my first thought was slight disappointment.  We had drinks and then enjoyed a really nice dinner together.  We talked the whole time, but for me there wasn't a spark.  It sucks when you can tell that the guy is more attracted to you then you are to him.  He complimented me, kept smiling, and touching me in flirty ways.  This is the part that I hate.  How do you let them down gently, and tell them you aren't that interested?  He is already asking me out again, what do I say??  


 —Emma   

When it Rains it Pours

First "blind" date was last weekend.


I'm going on a date with a new guy tonight.


Yesterday at work a resident asked me out for next week.


And on top of all of this, my personal trainer keeps "trying" to ask me out. 


It's like all of a sudden I am irresistible to these people!  I've never been on so many dates with multiple guys in such a short time span.  I guess once you put yourself out there with an open mind.....it starts .... raining men! 


 —Emma   

     

Not Gunna Settle

So I've done it! I've joined a dating website. Kind of scary considering while I was picking out which site I'd use, I saw the profile of one of my coworkers (yeah, I didn't join that one). But I filled out my profile and uploaded my pictures and all that. And I've decided to take a backseat approach this time to meeting a guy. I'm going to let them come to me (men like the chase, don't they?). I think online dating is great for that. You can just let the guys contact you, and then (here is the best part), you get to weed through your choices! Pick out the ones with actual potential and throw the rest away. I mean, how great is that? I get to be picky. And that is exactly what I need right now because I am not gunna settle. Ever.

Hugs and kisses,

Elizabeth